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Why You Never Take Your Own Advice
When my friends ask me what they should do about that guy they like, I always have an answer ready: “Just ask him out! Even he says no, you’ll know you tried.”
Yet, when it comes to the men or women I like, the answer isn’t so simple. I can’t just ask them out — what if they reject me and then I have to see them all the time? What if they no longer want to be friends? What if they do say yes and then it doesn’t work and I still have to see them every day?
I’ve learned that it’s easy to give advice — the hard part is applying it to your own life. And, really, this is something I’ve struggled with for a long time. I realized at a young age that I’m fairly perceptive when it comes to people. I can read the room. My ability to empathize well has fostered a greater understanding of how other people think. As a result, I’m good at dishing out advice.
When you tell me that you’re madly in love with a girl you met two days ago, and are planning on immediately asking her to be your girlfriend, I’ll tell you that maybe you’re moving too fast. You only met this girl two days ago — you don’t know anything about her. Maybe you really have been struck by Cupid’s arrow, but maybe you’re also just in love with the idea of love. Maybe you…
