Why I Don’t Send Nudes

Your response tells me what kind of person you are

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It’s happened to a lot of us. We’re texting someone we actually like — our crush from Psychology class or the cute-co-worker we’ve been eyeing — and we’re starting to think the flirty conversation might actually go somewhere.

Then, out of nowhere, they pop the question.

No, not the marriage question, but another big, relationship-changing question:

“Will you send nudes?”

The nude question comes in a lot of forms — it can subtle, straightforward, provocative or downright insulting. Regardless, it all boils down to the same thing: are you willing to show off your naked body for someone else’s pleasure?

For me, the answer is and probably always will be no. I know that, in our current culture, my refusal to send someone else nudes might come across as prudish or old-fashioned. Feel free to think of me in a traditional Victorian gown, tightening my bonnet and clutching a crucifix.

Believe it or not, my purpose for writing this piece is not to persuade to stop sending nudes. I’m not your high school guidance counselor trying to convince you not to sext. Whether you spend the rest of your life never taking a naked picture or plastering your nudes all over Twitter isn’t really…