The Real Reason Women Don’t Like “Nice Guys”

The real reason that women seem to constantly put self-proclaimed nice guys into the friend zone

Lin
4 min readAug 30, 2021
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Maybe you’ve seen it portrayed in movies and TV shows: the beautiful main character and her passionate love interest ride off into the sunset while her “nice guy” friend gets left behind.

Or maybe you’ve seen it play out in real life — despite being a “nice guy,” you can’t ever seem to get out of the friend zone, but your female friends continue to date guys who don’t seem to treat them right.

Well, as a woman who’s encountered plenty of “nice guys” in the dating realm, here’s the real reason you’re not scoring with us (Hint: it’s not because we’re just into assholes).

You’re not as nice as you think you are

Whether it’s on a dating app or a real-life encounter, I’ve found that most self-proclaimed “nice guys” fall into one of three categories:

  1. They think that “being nice” also means they should be getting laid
  2. They’re genuinely nice men, but they haven’t had the best luck pursuing women

Unfortunately, I can tell you that I encounter category one more often than I ever encounter category two. There’s a…

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Lin

When I’m not writing, you can usually find me hanging out with my cats