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Is it Okay To ‘Ghost’ People?
Ghosting is a staple of modern dating, but is it really okay to leave without a trace?
Over the summer, I went on a date with this guy.
Well, date is kind of a strong word. He casually asked me out for tea but insisted on paying the bill. Up to that point, we’d been talking for a few weeks, and we both seemed interested in getting to know each other a little better.
Our kind-of-date went well. It wasn’t love at first sight but nobody faked an emergency phone call either. We talked for a couple of hours, and then both went our separate ways. I wasn’t completely smitten with the guy, but I wouldn’t have minded a second date — preferably something that was a little more interactive.
The only problem was that, after that initial coffee date, the guy never texted me again.
Poof. Gone. He disappeared faster than eggs, bread, and milk during a blizzard.
Over the next week, I even texted him a few times to check in — only to be met with radio silence. After my second text went completely unanswered, I began to realize that I’d been ghosted.
While I wasn’t necessarily hurt by the ghosting, his vanishing act did leave me with plenty of lingering questions: did I do something to suddenly make…
